Fun – what’s that?

I sat down tonight to continue asking myself some hard questions… I’m attempting some goal setting for both my work and my personal life – me! Earlier today I set some goals around anxiety and health… yay!

I decided that I would continue this work, but this time around two different but related goals. More fun. More adventures.

At the outset, I thought – how hard can this be? Little did I know! I started off with how do I make more fun more specific!? Here is where I discovered a rather telling thing about myself… I have no idea what I like to do for fun!! Cue moment of panic! Yes, even therapists freak out occasionally.

What do I do for fun?

Computer games? Depends on the game and on the company, if there is any company.

Crochet – is that personal stuff or stuff for my daughters business?

Reading – depends on the subject. If its psychological, it could be fun, if its a novel that could also be fun.

I think my issue here is how on earth am I defining fun?

I should also note that I find it fun to find out what makes people tick. It’s fun, but the more interesting version of fun as opposed to rolling on the floor laughing my ass off kind of fun.

noun

1. Enjoyment; amusement.

   "We had fun at the beach."

2. A source of enjoyment, amusement, or pleasure.

   "Was the party fun?"

3. Mirthful sport; frolicsome amusement; enjoyment from gay or comical action or speech.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, 5th Edition.

OK, by that account:

• watching a movie (I have a couple hundred of those)

• computer games

• crochet

• people watching/studying

• gardening (looking after my herbs)

• reading

• hanging out with my fur and feather babies (1 dog, 1 cat, 5 chickens)

• having deep existential philosophical discussions

Problem solved. I find a lot of things to be fun. So my next problem is how do I make such a vague goal of have more fun into something that is more specific, measurable and achievable without taking the fun out of it??

Ahem – I think I’ve missed the point!! I don’t think its a case of scheduling into my time more of these specific activities and then saying – ahah! I did this or that! No. Rather, I think this needs to be looked at from an entirely different perspective.

Instead of scheduling in activities, I need to give myself permission to relax and have more fun!

I believe that is the line of questioning I need to take myself down.

So now, I need to go and spend some time asking myself some of the hard questions that I ask my clients!